We analyzed over , first contacts on our dating site, OkCupid. Our program looked at keywords and phrases, how they affected reply rates, and what trends were statistically significant. Online dating advice at its best. Netspeak, bad grammar, and bad spelling are huge turn-offs. These all make a terrible first impression. In fact, if you count hit and we do!
Skip navigation! Sure, we all hear about decent human beings connecting with each other via online dating sites then meeting up, hooking up, and even shacking up. But sites like OkCupid, Match. In fact, online dating can truly, epically, SUCK. Especially when an intelligent, smart, totally awesome woman must sort through piles of gnarly missives drafted by web-savvy Neanderthals to find her prince. It is important to note, this story was inspired by an email from one of these fellows, which followed a first date and closed with: "and lastly, the only reason i didn't try to fuck you was because you really didn't appear to want that. Yes, a smiley face, because he's, you know, charming.
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Should you "wink" or send them a message? And if you send a message, should you be serious, or try to be funny, or flirtatious? Is it too soon to suggest going out for a coffee? Sending the first email when you're online dating can be daunting, especially if you've been out of the game for a while!