The elderly woman told the teen that she wouldn't be let back on stage for choir practice unless she changed her outfit and seemed oblivious to the hurtful nature of her words. A young teen was left sobbing miserably after a church leader followed her into a washroom to body-shame her for wearing shorts. The woman found it fit to tell the teenager that she was too "chubby" to be wearing jean shorts and that she wouldn't be let back on stage for choir practice until she changed her outfit. The incident occurred at the Swansboro United Methodist Church in North Carolina and the girl subjected to the traumatizing experience recorded the incident on her phone to bring the older woman's true nature to the church pastor's attention.
This is normal and due to the different needs of men's and women's bodies as a result of sexual development. I emphasize that these are averages. Each of us have different metabolisms based on our genetics. We store energy at different rates and in different areas on the body. There is no optimal body fat percentage. Concerned students may want to consult a doctor or nutritionist.
How to talk to girls about weight, eating, and loving their body. She is very fit and healthy, and at a normal weight for her height, age, and body type, so I was saddened but not surprised that such a beautiful girl would be so self-critical. Because I hear comments such as these all the time from preteen and teen girls, who all have a negative body image. Additionally, one-half of fourth-grade girls are on a diet.
Last Halloween, a woman in North Dakota planned to hand out candy to neighbor children, as is customary. However, she generated controversy when she shared the rest of her plan—to hand out a note, rather than candy, to the children whom she considered overweight. This may seem like an extreme example but parents and families sometimes talk in similar ways to their kids about food and weight.